Being a Good Potluck Guest

As promised, I am continuing my posts on potluck etiquette, offering some advice based on my humble experiences.

Let's start with being a good guest, since most people will be a guest at a potluck before they are a host (at least the way I think of it). Being invited to a potluck is a bit unlike other social events since you have a clear responsibility of bringing something. One does not simply show up to a potluck, as one would be outcast immediately. Or just receive some nasty glares from other guests. Either way, the obvious first piece of advice is to make sure you bring something to a potluck.

Now the question becomes what to bring. In my experience, this is difficult for most people, mainly because they "don't" cook or "can't make anything good". If you, dear reader, can relate to this line of reasoning, do not fret. There a few avenues you can take to remedy this problem, which usually involves talking to the host or to some other guests. First, you should ask them what the expectations are for this potluck. If it's a relatively informal gathering where the food is merely a means to an end (of having a great time), then perhaps bringing snack foods, alcohol, or a ready-made, store-bought dessert is a possibility. These are easy things to bring, as you just have pick them up from your favourite grocer and remember to bring them. If the event is somewhat more formal, and food is a higher order of the day, then you may want to bring something you have prepared yourself or a classier store-bought item, such a fine wine or more decadent dessert. The last case is where the host has something particular in mind for some or all guests to bring, in which case you may have already been volunteered to make something. This is either a blessing or a curse depending on your esteemed host. That delicious three bean dip or blueberry fruitcake may taste good and impress, but it could also take time, resources and money to prepare that you just don't feel you have.

In any event, make sure to let the host know about your comfort level in preparing something. You may be able to bring utility items such as soft drinks or paper plates in lieu of actual food. You may also be able to avoid getting locked into preparing something you do not want to. As with all social aspects of humans, communication is key, so talk to the host if you're sure of the expectations. Also make sure you know of any dietary restrictions, so you don't bring bacon-wrapped shrimp to a kosher party. This could be awkward for you and other guests, so be mindful. On the other side of the coin, make sure the host and possibly other guests know about dietary restrictions you have.

The only aspect to being a gracious guest is how you actually arrive and interact at the event. Make sure you're punctual, which should be an obvious point. Also remember to let the host know of any special equipment or preparations that should be done before you arrive. There are instances where it makes more sense to prepare or finish a dish on-site at the event. If this is the case, make sure the host knows about it! The last point is to be polite and courteous to other guest and dishes. Don't turn your nose up at other prepared dishes, as this is rude. Nor should you offer nonconstructive criticism of other dishes; if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all. In my experiences, most of the dishes prepared are actually really good. Potlucks are a perfect chance to experience new foods and perspectives, so don't ruin things by being a snob or an ass. Be yourself and enjoy!

In my next post, I'll give some tips for preparing good dishes and provide some potluck-friendly recipes.